A friend had a revelation and sent me over some mantras for being authentic. I thought they were well worth republishing, since they are so clearly at the heart of what I believe:
- Be myself. Be stubborn and honest and very me. There is a temptation to bend into the shape you think you should be (so that the person you’re with will continue to like you), but that removes the parts of you that were uniquely likable.
- Being yourself means that you aren’t advertising a false personality, and the other can make an informed decision about being with you
- Being yourself maintains the wonderful and quirky things that make you attractive in the first place
- You have every right to be different. I keep reminding myself that it is ok to dislike John Irving because it is a matter of taste. I don’t expect him to like the same things that do, and he shouldn’t think less of me for not loving his favorite author. As far as I’m concerned, I’ve tried two books and that should earn some serious points.
Well said, my friend…